Building a life is hard. This morning I felt overwhelmingly exhausted as I watched hubby’s headlights back out in the cold darkness, and as he drove away to face another grueling day of work. It’s the exact same feeling as 20 years ago … I would wave goodbye and stand there feeling so small and tiny and overwhelmingly exhausted, as hubby’s headlights would back out in the cold darkness, and he would drive away to face yet another grueling day of work.
Somehow you assume the older you get, that overwhelmed exhausted feeling about life will go away … because, after all you’ve arrived … you’re older now and so everything should be figured out and somewhat easier now. Not in the least. In fact, it’s no different.
Building a life is hard. No matter whether single or married. And no matter whether single or married … we need a team. It takes a team to build a life.
Sometimes when a couple starts dating, they pull away from everyone else to focus solely on each other. This is not healthy. Building a life together takes a team!
Hubby and I cannot do our workshop build-out by ourselves. We need a team. To start with, we’ve never done a build-out before. It is the same with life … none of us have ever done “life” before. None of us know quite what we are doing.
Some have done “life” a little bit longer, so we need them. We need their knowledge about what they’ve been through. What went right … what went wrong?? How do we do this??
When it comes to mine and hubby’s workshop build-out, we are going to have a couple of contractors come to help us with the most difficult aspects. Then hubby and his work buddy will do the electrical. Then hubby and I will do all the rest.
So it is with life. When we are “building a life” we each need some serious help with the most difficult aspects of “building our life.” Then we need friends who can come alongside and together help us “build-out” other aspects of our life. Then there is a bunch of our life-build which we just simply need to do ourselves. No one else can do that for us.
It’s hard work. Building a life is hard work.
Don’t try to build a life alone. You need a team. No matter single or married, you still need a team.
