When it comes to having a relationship with a high-controlling individual … there is a lot of loss in the relationship.
The high-controlling individual will only travel the relational path if it is according to their plan and on their terms. Therefore, to deviate from their expectations and demands is to lose relationship with them.
Loss.
So much loss relationally.
And so … the one who has dared to deviate from the pre-determined path stands at the edge of the beautiful “meadow” … filled with sadness. So much wonderful potential from this “meadow” which has been lost … never again to be experienced.
As a way of dealing with the loss and sadness, a small token of remembrance is picked up from this particular meadow. Can you see all the stones scattered here and there in our background photo? Just a small pebble to add to the backpack. Just a little something to commemorate the loss.
The high-controlling individual in the relationship has no idea of the wonders and joys they forfeited. They have no idea how much they missed out on. And frankly, they don’t care. Control is the only thing that matters.
And so, the relationship continues down their path, as they dictate. Until … another “meadow” of opportunity comes along. Once more the relationship is broken as the pre-determined path is left, and a solitary exploration is made into the “meadow.” Once more opportunity is lost. Once more memories and joys are forfeited. And once more a “pebble of loss” is picked up from the “meadow” and tucked away in the backpack.
Such is the relationship with the high-controlling individual.
After years and years of picking up “pebbles of loss” from all the many different “meadows” of life, the backpack eventually becomes heavy and hard to carry. So much loss! The weight of it all is making each step forward so hard to take.
Set the backpack down.
The “pebbles of loss” are too heavy for you to carry. The weight of it all is more than you can bear.
Set the backpack down … and surrender it to Jesus. The best way to lighten the load is to worship! So, let that backpack of stones become an altar of praise to God. Let God burn it all up as you offer it as a sacrifice of praise to Him!
